My Hero Bemo Drive

 

Ia berjalan ringan menuju kursi pengemudi. Diletakkannya kruk dengan hati-hati disebelah kanan tempat duduknya. Ia ambil logam untuk disambungkan dengan kaki kirinya. Kemudian dijalankannya bemo dengan hati-hati. Ia selalu mengambil jalur di tepi sebelah kiri dengan kecepatan sedang. Tak ia balas klakson tak sabar dari supir Innova yang terpaksa terhenti saat ia menurunkan penumpangnya. Sama sekali tak ada umpatan atau wajah kesal. Hanya pemakluman. Ia ucapkan “Terimaksih, kak..” dengan ramah saat ia menerima ongkos dari penumpangnya.

I met that bemo driver in one morning after spending my night at the office finishing my work. I remember that morning suddenly I wanted to take Kopaja instead of a cab. I need a new point of view. And My Rabb gives me exactly what I need. He made me met him.

Since then, whenever I feel lost in this “Big Durian”, I take Kopaja 66 to Manggarai just to meet that bemo driver. He doesn’t need to tell me anything. Seeing him already teaches me everything about sincerity, dignity, careful and persistent of work or effort, and gratitude.

Up till now, I still don’t know his name. I’ve never succeed in summing up my courage to talk to him. With all that my Rabb has given to me compared to him, I should live my life in a more decent way and pay more gratitude. But I find myself complaining over unsignificant matters. It’s hard for me to hold my tears of shame whenever I see him.

Journey

Dear Love,

The journey began. Cool things will happen. Spend your life doing instead of watching. At the end of the day, ask yourself how much of your busywork that you proud of. How much of that running around improves anyone’s life (including yours) for the better. Well done is better than well said, Love.

It’s a tough jouney, Love. You will need friends, people along the journey. Cultivate good, honest and competent, people and keep them. Surround yourself with good people and stay loyal to them. Give them your long term commitment and support. And thay will give you theirs.

You will know failure. Deal with it. Do not fear mistakes. If you fear making mistakes, you become scared to try new things. Fear leaves you nestled in your comfort zone. Staying in your comfort zone leads to nothing. Take risks and give yourself permission to make mistakes.

It’s a long jouney, Love. There will be days when you are exhausted and want to give up. Don’t! Continue to reach out. Push forward day by day but be kind to yourself. Energy and persistence conquer all things.

Much love, Love..

Until we meet at the top 🙂

25 : 4 Mei 2012

Sekali berarti
Sudah itu mati.

MAJU

Bagimu Negeri
Menyediakan api.

Punah di atas menghamba
Binasa di atas ditindas
Sesungguhnya jalan ajal baru tercapai
Jika hidup harus merasai

Maju

Serbu
Serang
Terjang

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Chairil Anwar, Diponegoro, Februari 1943

Bandung, Finally!

Yes, finally I visited Bandung last weekend. After longing for weeks due to works and unhealthy body, I can breathe it’s cold air. It’s amazing! I was planning on spiritual and culinary travel. Here is some photos of good food and beverage I had there.

Iga Bakar Si Jangkung. Yumm! This is my brother’s favourite. We used to eat this together in our spare time. I hardly enjoyed it, because I missed him in every bite 😦

Portabella Mushrom and Caramel Machiato at Tree House. I am in love with mushroom since enjoying Little Asia fried crispy mushroom menu. This time, the mushroom is baked. And the taste made me falling in love more with mushroom. And the caramel machiato is good too. I can taste the espresso, caramel and milk in it.

Then, white coffee. What made my day wasn’t the taste although it tasted good too, but the way they served it. How cute the plastic white lace is! The taste is light. The tart sweetness lingers when it’s in my mouth but fade in the finish, replaced by gentle bitterness. I enjoyed it with “steak lidah sapi”. The meat felt soft. Unluckily, the brown sauce is too sweet for me. But, it still taste good. Right after finishing my meal, my stress is completely disappear 🙂

And this friday, I got a meeting invitation in Bandung. Wow! I can’t believe my luck! The venue is Hotel Sensa in Ciwalk. It is the most beautiful hotel I ever visited. I like it at the first sight and fall in love at the first step in it. I’ve never seen any hotel that it’s detail is beautifully designed as this hotel. It feels warm, nearly like home. Even the toilet! I can sit in the lobby bar, doing nothing, thinking nothing, enjoying coffee and the view. Sadly, that moment only lasted for ten minutes before the meeting. But, the meeting room felt warm too. I never felt that relaxed in meeting room  before. Here is some shot I took.

And… I write this post while enjoying Ngopi Doeloe Balck Forest Coffee and Nachos. The beverage tasted complicated. Mixed espresso, almond and mocca felt strong in my mouth. I thought of tasting rum too (the waiter said it’s a non alcoholic rum). The nachos is beyond. It is served with four kind of sauce, black paper, mushroom, tomato, and chili. They taste good, but the black paper is the best black paper sauce I’ve ever had. I can’t get enough of it!

Ah, we went to lunch together after the meeting. We enjoyed “ayam goreng” at Sambel Hejo. It’s delicious. And it’s the first time I taste “lenca”. It tasted funny and surprising in my mouth. I like it but it didn’t make my favorite list. But, I found I like “cimplung”. It’s like “perkedel kentang” but chewy. I guess it made of “pati” too beside potato.

The most favorite part of this trip is Abu Haidar’s preaching :

Kehidupan dunia itu seperti air hujan yang menyirami bumi kemudian menumbuhkan beragam tanaman yang mengagumkan penanamnya. Tapi, tanaman itu kemudian layu, daunnya menguning lalu mati. Sesungguhnya, dunia itu hanyalah kesenangan yang menipu. Sedangkan di kehidupan akhirat itu hanya ada adzab yang pedih atau ampunan dan ridho Allah. Mana yang kita pilih?

Yes, He is definitely right. All of the fun I told above is just “kesenangan yang menipu”.. I shoudn’t be tricked by it in my journey home to “kampung akhirat”.

My Rabb, aku memohon kepada-Mu segala kebaikan dan berlindung kepada-Mu dari segala keburukan. Dekatkanlah segala sesuatu yang mendekatkanku kepada-Mu dan jauhkanlah segala sesuatu yang menjauhkanku dari-Mu. Amin.

From, all of the coincidence in my trip, meeting my sisters, my Arabic teacher, and so on, I know You love me, My Rabb. That’s why this day should be ended with gratitude. Alhamdulillah. And, I will learn and try harder to love You better than this. Bismillah..

Memperbanyak Sujud

Dikisahkan oleh Rabiah bin Ka’ab al-Aslami, bahwa pada suatu malam ia pernah menyediakan seember air wudhu dan keperluan-keperluan lain yang dibutuhkan Rasulullah SAW. Melihat kebaikan yang dilakukan oleh Rabiah, Rasulullah berkata kepadanya, “Mintalah sesuatu dariku, wahai Rabiah.”

Rabiah pun menyebutkan permintaannya. “Wahai Rasulullah, aku minta agar Allah menjadikanku sebagai pendampingmu di surga kelak.” Rasulullah bertanya lagi, “Apakah tak ada permintaan selain itu?”

“Tidak ada, wahai Baginda Nabi. Hanya itu yang ingin aku minta darimu,” jawab Rabiah. “Jika demikian, maka bantulah dirimu untuk memperbanyak sujud.” (HR Muslim)
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Dalam hadits ini dipakai penyebutan sebagian dengan maksud keseluruhan. Jadi, yang dimaksud dengan sujud disini adalah sholat. Maka untuk mengamalkan hadits ini, yang seharusnya kita lakukan agar bisa mendampingi Rasulullah di surga adalah memperbanyak sholat sunah bukan memperbanyak sujud-sujud (selain sujud syukur dan tilawah) di luar sholat.

Hadits ini menceritakan pada kita betapa indahnya akhlak Rasulullah. Rasulullah tidak pernah membiarkan orang yang berbuat baik kepadanya begitu saja kecuali dengan membalas kebaikannya. Jangankan pada yang berbuat baik, pada yang berbuat jahat pun Rasulullah membalas dengan kebaikan. Itulah ihsan. Ihsan itu bukan berbuat baik pada orang yang berbuat baik kepadamu tapi berbuat baik pada orang yang berbuat jahat kepadamu. Hikmah dari akhlak ini adalah membrikan tasyjid (stimulan) pada orang yang berbuat baik itu untuk mempertahankan karakter baiknya atau pada orang yang berbuat jahat untuk memperbaiki akhlaknya. Begitulah ta’awun dalam kebaikan dan ketaqwaan. Bukan hanya bersama-sama berbuat baik tapi saling berbuat baik. Semoga kita bisa meneladani akhlak Rasulullah ini, karena dalam setiap sunah yang kita ikuti pasti ada kebaikan, barakah, cinta Allah dan ampunan-Nya atas dosa-dosa kita.

“Katakanlah: Jika kamu (benar-benar) mencintai Allah, ikutilah aku, niscaya Allah mengasihimu dan mengampuni dosa-dosamu.” (Ali Imran: 31)

Hikmah lain hadits ini adalah kemuliaan cita-cita hidup Rabiah. Rabiah tidak meminta harta atau hal lain dari dunia ini tapi yang dimintanya adalah urusan akhirat. Rabiah tahu benar jika ia melewatkan alam barzah dan akhirat dalam siksa maka betapa ruginya. Sedang dunia in sementara, tak lebih dari permainan dan senda gurau belaka. Maka cita-cita tertingginya jelas, menemani Rasulullah di surga.

Dan jawab Rasulullah, “Jika demikian, maka bantulah dirimu untuk memperbanyak sujud” mengajarkan kita bahwa saat kita beramal sholih pada hakikatnya kita berbuat baik untuk diri kita sendiri. Dengang amal sholih dan kebaikan tersebut akan lahir kemaslahatan yang besar untuk dirinya sendiri di dunia maupun di akhirat. Begitu pula ketika seseorang berbuat maksiat dan bid’ah. Pada hakikatnya, ia mengantar dirinya sendiri pada kebinasaan.

Hikmah lain yang ikhtilafi adalah tentang kedudukan sujud. Sebagian ulaman berpendapat bahwa rukun sholat yang paling utama adalah sujud karena di dalamnya kita merendahkan diri di hadapan Allah. Sebagian berpendapat yang utama adalah berdiri karena gerakan tersebut paling lama dilakukan dan di dalamnya dibaca ayat Al Qur’an. Jadi, ditinjau dari bacaan yang utama adalah berdiri dan ditinjau dari gerakan yang utama adalah sujud.

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NB : Dalam sujud, kita boleh membaca do’a dari Al Qur’an dengan syarat bacaan tersebut diniatkan untuk do’a bukan membaca ayat Al Qur’an. Sujud adalah saat seorang hamba merendahkan dirinya dan ayat Al Qur’an yang agung tidak boleh dibawa-bawa. Syarat kedua adalah yang dibaca adalah bagian dari ayat Al Qur’an yang berupa do’a bukan keseluruhan ayat Al Qur’an.

Oleh-oleh dari kajian di masjid Cipaganti.

How To Make Poeple Like You in 90 Seconds or Less

When you learn how to make fast, meaningful connections with people, you will improve your relationships at work and even at home. You will discover the enjoyment of being able to approach anyone with confidence and sincerity. Definitely, How To Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less is a must read book. Here is, what I found important in the early chapter of this book.

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1979 Alameda County Study by Dr. Lisa Berkman of the Harvard School of Health Sciences concluded that people who lack social and community ties are almost three times more likely to die of medical illness than those who have more extensive contacts. And all this is independent of socioeconomic status and health practices such as smoking, alcoholic beverage consumption, obesity or physical activity! Studies by the McArthur Foundation and the International Longevity Center in New York and at the University of Southern California show that people who stay socially and physically active have longer life spans. This doesn’t mean hanging out with the same old crowd and peddling around on an exercise bike. It means getting out and making new friends.

A connected community provides its members with strength and safety. When we feel strong and safe, we can put our energy into evolving socially, culturally and spiritually. Food and shelter aren’t enough. We need each other, and we need love. We need someone who influences our emotions and vital body rhythms in such a pleasurable way that we call it love. Be it through body language, gestures, facial expressions, tone of voice or words alone, other people make our hard times more bearable, our good times much sweeter. We use the emotional input of other humans as much as we do the air we breathe and the food we eat. How often have you heard about one spouse in a 50-year marriage who, despite being medically healthy, dies a few short months or even weeks after the death of the other spouse?  Deprive us of emotional and physical contact (a hug and a smile can go a long way), and we will wither and die just as surely as if we were deprived of food.

Among a fountain of new insights, studies revealed that everyone has a “favorite sense.” Find this sense and you have the key to unlock a person’s heart and mind. If people like you, they will be disposed to give you their time and their efforts. And the better the quality of rapport you have with them, the higher the level of their cooperation. If people like you, they feel natural and comfortable around you. They will give you their attention and happily open up for you.

Likability has something to do with how you look but a lot more to do with how you make people feel. Attitude and body language are paramount to creating a strong visual impression. There was a way of using body language and voice tone to make perfect strangers feel comfortable and cooperative. Likable people give loud and clear signals of their willingness to be sociable; they reveal that their public communication channels are open. Embedded in these signals is evidence of self-confidence, sincerity and trust. Likable people expose a warm, easygoing public face with an outgoing radiance that states, “I am ready to connect. I am open for business.” They are welcoming and friendly, and they get other people’s attention.

In the hustle and bustle of life today, we rush about with so many deadlines attached to everything that unfortunately we don’t have the time, or take the time, to invest in getting to know each other well. We look for associations, make appraisals and assumptions, and form decisions all within a few seconds and frequently before a word is even spoken. Friend or foe? Fight or flight? Opportunity or threat? Familiar or foreign? Instinctively, we assess, undress and best-guess each other. And if we can’t present ourselves fast and favorably, we run the risk of being politely, or impolitely, passed over.

The attention span of the average person is about 30 seconds. If there’s nothing fresh and exciting for it to focus on, it becomes distracted and wanders off in search of something more compelling. In face-to-face communication, it’s not enough to command the other person’s attention. You must also be able to hold on to it long enough to deliver your message or intention. You will capture attention with your likability, but you will hold on to it with the quality of rapport you establish. More and more it comes down to three things: 1) your presence, i.e., what you look like and how you move; 2) your attitude, i.e., what you say, how you say it and how interesting you are; and 3) how you make people feel.

End Year Gratitude and New Year Wish

Alhamdulillah..

Untuk semua rahmat-Mu tahun ini.

Untuk kegagalan yang membawa pada kesempatan baru yang lebih baik. Aku masih ingat saat pintu-pintu yang semula terbuka lebar untuk ecomodel tertutup. When all the enthusiasm and hardwork turn to nothing, I cried that evening. I felt sorry for my lack of skill and experience and connection and some bad thougt. But I learnt. And hoped. And tried again.

Dan kemudian, Kau bukakan pintu-pintu pada kemungkinan dan kesempatan yang lebih baik, yang lebih menantang. Orang-orang hebat yang memperkaya jiwa. Dukungan orang-orang tersayang. Ujian naik kelas yang indah untuk dikenang tapi tidak ingin diulang, hehe.. Ya, kalau diulang berarti belum lulus kan? Hehe..

So, once again,.

My Rabb, thank you for the wonderful 2011 year. May my coming year be filled with magic experiences and dreams come true and good madness. And I hope, somewhere in this year, You will surprise me, challenge me, help me and grow me up with Your blessing. Again.

I love You. Always.

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NB : I got a new year presents from mom, some pretty dresses she made herself, with message “tahun baru, semangat baru, ya!”. She is the best mom in the world.. 🙂